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Saturday, 22 January 2011

Style my hijab: Golden Arabia

Salaam all,

Here is a hijab style I came up with today, modelled by little sister (=

I hope you guys like it!

This style has been created with two scarves a brooch and a chandelier hijab pin. It's a perfect look for a wedding or party.

I just had to buy this brooch, its too cute and can be worn in so many different ways.

To buy this chandelier hijab pin go to the islam factory store, but hurry because there is only one piece!


Thursday, 20 January 2011

Fashion label review- Pardah Collections

Assalaamu alaikum all,

Recently I have been in contact with a few new Islamic companies, fashion labels, online stores etc, today's review is on a new fashion label called 'Pardah collections'. The owner of pardah collections has sent me a few products to review so here goes...!

Pardah collections is a brand new fashion label based in Glasgow, UK. It is owned by sister Shama. They sell a full range of stunning brooches, bracelets, rings, headbands, swarovski crystal products(abaya and headbands) bridal abaya, everyday abayas, and the girls night out abaya! They are currently the only stockist for the Lawung designer range in Scotland.

A bespoke tailoring service is also available, the item you like can be altered to suit you. If you want something that is not available on the website you can get in contact with pardah collections and they will be more than willing to try and get it for you.

Pardah collections has a range of beautiful wedding abayas. The abaya's are middle eastern styles with an infusion of western trends. The ideal outfit for a bride or bridesmaids. Elegantly modest.
 There are various styles of superb quality middle eastern abayas straight off the catwalk. Pardah collections doesn't follow a trend it sets the trends.

One thing I absolutely love about pardah collections is their gorgeous range of brooches, rings and bracelets!

I was sent the third brooch in this picture above and it is even more beautiful in real life! The quality is top notch, it's mega cute and can be worn with your hijab to add a little bit of pretty bling to an everyday outfit.

Here are ideas of how to wear the brooch with a hijab...

I also received a bracelet in its own special gift box, I love those little deatails such as gift boxes, always makes it that much more special....here are a few images of the bracelets being sold by pardah collections, each one has its own gift box or organza pouch.

My fav bracelet has got to be the one at the end, for some reason it reminds me of that kenneth jay swarovski ring featured in the 'classic black' blog post. Would definitely go really well with that ring.

here are a few more images of the products pardah collection sells

Pardah collections delivers worldwide, parcels are shipped out on same day as order if placed before 4pm UK time.

Another amazing thing about this company is its charitable work here's what the owner Shama had to tell me about their charity work....

"We have teamed up with a local charity called the well foundation http://www.wellfoundation.org.uk/

This charity does fantastic work mA!The Well Foundation primarily aims to raise money to build wells, install hand pumps and establish health and sanitation programme's to provide accessible clean water to the stricken regions of the world.

The Well Foundation will seek to undertake a number of key projects which we hope will compliment people’s lives.

If you want to get involved or wish to place a charity fund-raising tin at your premise then please go to the "Get Involved" page on the website for further details or e-mail them at info@wellfoundation.

aH we are in process of linking our site with this charity to offer our customers the chance to donate!
iA by doing this we will raise lots of much needed money for those in need of clean water."

The customer service with this company was mostly very good, bearing in mind they haven't finished setting everything up the best way to get in touch with them is through facebook http://www.facebook.com/pages/Pardah-Collections/136631753050060

The website is yet to be completed, however you can buy items from their lawung range and some of their jewellery, but again the best way to view their products and contact them is through the facebook page. http://www.pardah.co.uk/  

All in all my fav section of the fashion label is their jewellery, the abayas are very nice but I'm very much looking forward to the website being up and running fully (hopefully 13th Feb iA).  So go and have a look at some of the jewellery and the lawung section for now, but make sure to check the site again when its up and running.

***Give away time!.....=D Pardah collections are giving away one of their best selling scarves and one of their exclusive shimmer headband....to enter send your name and contact details to ihijabi@gmail.com [please note you must be over 18 to enter] invite as many people as you can to the iHijabi facebook page because once we have received 400 fans the winner will be announced iA***

JazakAllahu khairan sis shama for the products and I wish this fashion label success inshaAllah.

Waslaam xxx

Pardah Collections will be at the awaz fm wedding exhibition at the thistle hotel in Glasgow, they will be selling some of their abayas so if your in the area make sure you head down there iA!

Tuesday, 11 January 2011

Style my hijab: Spring/Summer....Corsage headbands

I received the next spring/summer directory the other days so I thought I would look through it and see what the theme is for this spring/summer and found that its big flared trousers and loose jersey jumpsuits, but what caught my eye was a corsage headband on the jewellery page, it was super pretty and I could just imagine it with a nice floral or plain pastel pink hijab worn in a layered style.

I then searched on the net for a while to find some hijab tutorials or pictures of hijab styles using a corsage headband but I couldn't find any that were nice )= so instead I searched google images for corsage headbands and found a few that I thought would look stunning with hijab.

The headband from next cost £8 and I didn't buy it because I think its a bit much for a headband seeing as I'd only wear it on special occasions. But if I do buy a corsage headband then I'll show you how it looks with hijab.

I definately think corsage headbands are a hijabi must have accessory for this spring/summer.

 [Images taken from google images]

Monday, 10 January 2011

Muslim Marriage....How to win the heart of your wife

1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time you went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that the Prophet (peace be upon him) would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don’t treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day -which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to ‘bug’ him. Don’t treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that, buy her a gift just to say thank you for something small she did, like ironing your shirt before work.

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (Pbuh) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (R.A). It’s a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

5. Love her parents and her family like you do your own, buy them gifts and offer to visit them often. This will make her happy because she will know that her parents mean a lot to you.

6. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when the Prophet (Pbuh) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even when he was fasting.

7. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don’t let that be; thank her!

8. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don’t have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

9. Don’t belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (Pbuh) set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah ( R.A ) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

10. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet (Pbuh) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

11. Listen to her attentively, no woman wants to feel like she is being ignored,  when she is talking, take what she says seriously and give some positive feedback.

12. Be a man! Don't act feminine, women want a real man who appreciates the feminine qualities in his wife. When you're out hold her hand. When in a crowded area don't walk 10 steps ahead of her without looking back. Don't cross the road without her. Your job is to look after her so without being over protective learn to show that you care about her safety.

13. Show your affection for her in different ways, such as gently kissing her to wake her up for fajr or slowly wrapping your arms around her waist when she least expects it (e.g. when she's washing the dishes). Tell her you love her before you go to sleep and tell her you love her even more than the day before when you wake up.

14. When you get home from work don't talk about work. Make it seem like you couldn't stop thinking about her all day and greet her with a smile and salaam. Freshen up and go make her feel like you haven't seen her for a month.

15. Always remember the words of Allah’s Messenger (Pbuh): "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.” Try to be the best!

In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - ta’ala to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta’ala knows best!!

www.islamfortoday.com (a few points have been added and some have been edited)

Sunday, 9 January 2011

Muslim Marriage....How to win the heart of your husband

In this post I have started with a video of a lecture by Muhammad Al Shareef titled 'how to be an outstanding wife' he talks about stories of the prophets wives and the women during the time of the prophet so that you may take tips and learn from the prophet (pbuh) and his companions (peace and blessings be upon them all).

The second part is 10 tips given by Muhammad Al Shareef on winning the heart of your husband. So inshaAllah you can either read the tips or listen to the lecture or both.

And before anyone bites my head off I will be doing another post on 'how to win the heart of your wife InshaAllah.

10 ways to win the heart of your husband

By Muhammad AlShareef

1. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful. All good things are from Allah.

Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.

2. Listen and Obey! Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect..

3. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him..

4. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault. When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends.".

5. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire..

6. Joke and play games with your husband. A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh..

7. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house. From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband..

8. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband..

9. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting. Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him..

10. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband..

Please leave me some form of feedback iA, did you find this useful? Do any of them work? Can you come up with anymore tips? etc, just so I know if people are actually benefiting from these posts iA

Monday, 3 January 2011

Muslim Marriage....Tips for a Happier Marriage

Went a bit off track from the marriage topics I said I'd do. So here's another useful article...Enjoy!

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect" (30: 21).
I have listed some rules that may benefit those seeking an Islamic marriage, as well as, those who are already married. I do not pretend to be an expert of any kind. I have learned what I know through marrying at the early age of 18, just 9 months after embracing Islam. I muddled my way through much of my 14 years of marriage, and consider myself a graduate from the 'school of hard knocks'. The rules are:

1. Be conscious of your physical appearance. No one was more conscious of this than the Prophet. His Sunnah reflects keen attention to personal hygiene and good grooming. He kept himself strong and muscular. Most likely the first aspect of you that attracted your mate was your appearance, so don't think that simply because you are married the task is over. You can't hide a weight problem under Thawbs' (dress) and long Khimars' (veils). Your mate knows. Be aware that you live in a society that places a high premium on physical appearance. It flaunts the shapely female and her muscular counterpart. Temptations that beckon non-Muslims beckon Muslims as well. Don 't allow your mate to get side-tracked by the likes of a Raquel Welch or an Arnold Schwarzenegger. Jog, join a gym, roller skate, swim and stay in shape. Insha' Allah, you will be more vibrant, more radiant, and more attractive to your mate.

2. Be aware of your role, but do not fall into role- playing. Muslim spouses sometimes experience difficulties because they are trying to do things 'by the book' without giving due consideration to the conditions prevailing in their country. For example, most female converts are taught that the role of the Muslim woman is to be at home raising her children. Supposedly, it is the man who works outside the home to maintain the family. She may have read about Birth Control and assumed that it has no place for the Muslimah; yet, it is worth noting that the Prophet himself allowed coitus interruptus. If ideal Islamic conditions prevailed, there would be no reason for a sister to worry about her financial situation interfering with her right to bear children. However, without an Islamic society, needy Muslim families may have to resort to welfare and food stamps rather than Zakaah and Sadaqah. This creates a feeling of dependence and humiliation that can place extreme stress on a marriage. In this ease, it may be helpful for the Muslim couple to delay having children, for the wife to work while the children are young and until the couple 's financial situation improves. Islam gives you this flexibility. Don't be afraid or ashamed to use it.

3. Be a companion to your mate. Try to show enthusiasm for your spouse's interests and hobbies. It is well-known that the Prophet would run races with 'Aisha. By all means try to involve your mate in your interests.

4. Be active in Islamic community life. This will strengthen your commitment to Islam while providing you wish a wholesome social outlet. Encourage your spouse to engage in activities that promote Islam. Have dinners at your home for Muslims as well as non-Muslims, and don't neglect your relatives. These activities will indirectly enhance the quality of your marriage through widening your circle of activity and contacts.

5. Admit your mistakes and have a forgiving, generous attitude when your mate errs. This country is a difficult place to live in. Most Muslims fall short of the Islamic ideal. Contradictions abound. Be quick to admit your shortcomings and work to amend them. Be understanding when your mate does not live up to the Islamic ideal and gently try to motivate him or her in the right direction.

6. Have a sense of humour. Be able to chuckle at life's minor aggravations.

7. Be modest when around members of the opposite sex. Do not try to test your spouse's affection by feigning interest in another. This will only cause dissension and bad feelings.

8. Share household duties. Brothers, take note. This is especially important these days when women work outside the home. The Prophet always helped his wives around the house and even mended his own clothes. Who knows? You might find you actually like preparing the evening meal or taking care of junior so your wife can have the afternoon off. 

The Messenger of Allah said, "The most perfect of the believers in faith is the best of them in moral excellence, and the best of you are the kindest of you to their wives" (at-Tirmidhi).

9. Surprise each other with gifts. Treat her to an evening out alone, away from the children. There are no words to describe the lift this can give to a marriage.

10. Communicate your feelings to one another, good and bad. Tell him how handsome he looks. Where there is disagreement, have an open discussion. Don ' t collect red stamps. Nip it in the bud .

11. Live within your means. Stay away from credit cards if you can. Sisters, take note. Don't envy the possessions of your friends, and belittle your husband because he can't provide them for you. Muslim couples will do well to stay away from ostentatious living. The Prophet did not live this way, neither should you.

12. Respect your mate's need for privacy. A quiet time to oneself, either at home or away from home, each day can make a disagreeable person agreeable.

13. Don 't share personal problems with others. There are a few exceptions to this rule, but if you must discuss personal problems, make sure it is with a person in whom you have the utmost confidence. If you have a learned Muslim brother or sister in your community, seek him or her out first.

14. Be sensitive to your mate's moods. If you want to share a personal achievement, don't do it when your spouse is 'down in the dumps ' . Wait for the proper time.
You may be saying to yourself, "This is easier said than done." Well, you're right. A successful marriage doesn't just happen. It's not simply a matter of luck or finding the right person. It takes hard work and determination. It means being selfless and making mistakes. It means having vengeance on your mind but forgiveness in your heart. But, then, its perfection is "half of faith".

Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead righteous. Qur'an 25:74

"The whole world is an asset and the best asset is a good wife" (Muslim)

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect" (30: 21).

By  Muntaqima Abdur-Rashid

How Harry Potter turned my daughter to the world of witchcraft and jinns.

The other day my cousin was telling me about a seminar she went to. The sheikh was talking about Islamic counselling. He told them about a story of a family of 2 girls aged 14 and 16 who were being brought up by a single mother. The mother took them to him because she couldn't understand why her two daughters are always fighting.

The sheikh asked the two girls what the problem was but they didn't speak, he then told the mother to go out of the room and spoke to them alone. When he asked the eldest daughter what the problem at home was the girl said that her younger sister was 'weird'. She started to tell him about how her younger sister looks at spells and potions on the internet and makes potions. She told him that after she started doing that strange things would start happening in the house , for example doors would keep opening and closing on their own or lights would just suddenly switch on and off.

The sheikh then spoke to the younger daughter and asked her about the spells and potions, the younger daughter told him that after she read and watched Harry Potter she was interested in magic. Which is why she was making spells and potions by going on the internet. The sheikh explained to her about what Islam says about magic and so she stopped.

But SubhanAllah can you believe this little girl didn't know she was doing anything wrong? I don't think many parents are aware how exposing their children to these sorts of books and films can affect them in this way.

I mean when I read and watched films such as harry potter I was old enough to know that the world of 'Hogwarts' wasn't real. However I remember when I was younger (and our family wasn't very practising) I would watch 'Charmed' a drama series about three witch sisters. My sisters and I would pretend we were doing spells and magic. The only thing is we didn't have Internet or even a computer at that time which meant we couldn't do research into magic and slowly we grew out of that phase.

This story highlighted to me that we need to protect our children and younger siblings from these kinds of books and films, yes sometimes it can be difficult because we were introduced to Harry potter in school and films are always on TV but if we are going to let them be exposed to it all, we need to teach them the Islamic views on magic, tell them of stories from the passed like those of Harut and Marut, and Sulayman AS so that they know that magic is a dark art and that anyone who practices magic is selling their soul to the devil and has no share in the hereafter. [If they're young you probably don't want to scare them, but keep an eye on what they get up to when on the computer]

"And when there came to them a Messenger from Allah confirming what was with them, a party of those who were given the scripture threw away the book of Allah behind their backs as if they did not know. And they followed what the devils gave out falsely of magic of the reign of Solomon; for Solomon did not disbelieve but the devils disbelieved, teaching men magic and such things that came down at Babylon to the two angels Harut and Marut, but neither of these two (angles) taught anyone (such things) until they had said: we are only for trial, so don't disbelieve. And from them (magicians) people learn that through which they would cause separation between a person and his spouse, but they could not thus harm anyone except by Allah's leave; and they learn that which harms them rather than profits them. And indeed they knew that its practitioner would have no share in the Hereafter. And how bad indeed was that for which they sold their own selves if they but knew" (2:101-2).

May Allah protect us and protect our offspring. Ameen.

'With the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Say: I seek refuge with (Allah) the Lord of the daybreak, from the evil of what He has created, and from the evil of the darkening (night) as it comes with its darkness, and from the evil of those who practice witchcraft when they blow knots, and from the evil of the envier when he envies.'- Surah Falaq

What I have written is from my memory of what my cousin told me and from her memory of the story the sheikh told her so don't quote me on that story. Any good I have said comes from Allah and any shortcomings are mine alone. Allahu Alam

This site is pretty good for some extra reading inshaAllah http://www.islamawareness.net/BlackMagic/magic.html

Saturday, 1 January 2011

My Trendy hijab- Interview with a hijab stylist

Sister Abir- Hijab stylist and owner of 'My trendy hijab'

I recently interviewed an up and coming bespoke hijab stylist, with the latest hijabs, accessories, and styles from the heart of the United Arab Emirates.In this post I have uploaded the interview as well as some easy, elegant, trendy yet modest hijab styles.

I asked sister Abir a hijab stylist from the UAE and owner of 'My trendy hijab' about the company, how and why she started it up.

"My Trendy Hijab was established in November 2010. The business is located in the United States, Columbus city in the state of Ohio.I always loved to wear fashionable clothes. When I first started wearing my hijabs in the year 1997, I was residing in the US at that time. I had a hard time finding hijabs to begin with and let alone finding fashionable hijabs. So the idea had stuck in my head since then.

After I moved to the United Arab Emirates, it was so much easier to find fashionable hijabs.  I then decided to start my business and establish a store in the U.S so I can bring to my family, friends and my Muslim sisters in the west some of the latest fashionable styles and ideas of hijabs.  I started styling because I wanted to help all my Muslim sisters with ways to wear their hijabs and also bring to the world's attention how we can be modest yet fashionable at the same time."

How difficult is it being a wife, mother and business woman and how do you deal with it?

"For sure being a wife, mother and a business woman is not an easy thing to do, finding that perfect balance between work and family life is one of motherhoods toughest tasks. The best way to balance between work and family life is not to let either over run the other.  When I am working I try to focus on my job and trust that my children are being taken care of.

Balancing work and home life can be done and people do it every day. It's not always going to be easy and it will take some discipline, but if you stick to your guns and refuse to let one over run the other you will find the balance comes together perfectly. My Husband is a big support for me as well as my family and without their support I would not have gone through starting My Trendy Hijab Business."

What was your biggest challenge?

"The biggest challenge that I had is creating my own web site and trying to advertise for this Business."
What are your ambitions for the future?

"My ambitions for the future is to get my Business expanded all over the world so I can provide my Muslim sister all over the world to find the right Muslim Clothes and get what they have been looking for.  I will continue doing tutorials of new Hijab Designs to assure that Muslim Sisters find exactly what they are looking for. Someday I would love to start designing my own Hijabs and accessories like Rabia Z J."
What advice would you give to other young sisters aspiring to start a business of their own?

I encourage all Muslim Sisters to run after their dreams.  No matter how long it will take, if you're the right person with a solid plan, starting a small business of your own can be the most satisfying, exhilarating experience of your life.

And finally what kind of products do you sell on your website and can you give us some sneak peaks into future products?

"My store has various types of hijabs and also accessories (this includes hand sleeves, head bandanas, 2-piece sets and flower clips). We have Satin, Silk, Cotton, Viscose and other materials. Some are handmade as well. My next shipment to the U.S will include Abayas as many sisters have requested."

JazakAllahu khairan Sister Abir for answering my questions (=

Here are a few pictures of sister Abir modelling some of her hijab styles.

I love this design probably because of the colours. This is one shaded scarf, which makes it look like she combined two. Clever huh?

In this style the flower is actually one end of the scarf. Looks complicated but actually very simple to do.

 Styled with two scarves, which you can adapt to give you some neck coverage if you're not wearing a top with a high neck.

Add accessories to give it a finishing touch.
 A perfect style if you're going for a trendy yet smart/casual look.
Flower power! no need to add a flower accessory when you can make a flower with the scarf you're wearing.

My favourite style by far! That may be because I wear an abaya/jilbab. If you've ever wanted to know how the women in the UAE style their hijab then you have to watch this khaleeji style wrap, so simple and so elegant.
 Layering two scarves, with neck coverage.

A beautiful style for special occasions. Who said hijabis can't look glamorous?

Here is a video tutorial for that khaleeji wrap that I absolutely love.


To contact Sister Abir for any enquiries on the outfits she's wearing or products you want to see on her website email: customercare@mytrendyhijab.com
Make sure you check out her website: www.mytrendyhijab.com