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Monday, 19 December 2011

Hijab for Men





Via - http://nayzak.deviantart.com/art/Hijab-for-men-267011783

Assalaamu alaikum [Peace be to you],

I didn't post new stuff for a long time. anyway, this is one drawing that I made 3 months ago, but I didn't have time to finish it. I wanted to talk a little about Hijab for Muslim men.

It is not uncommon for non-Muslims and even many Muslims to associate the Islamic commandments on Hijab with females, even though Islam has ordained Hijab for both men and women. In fact, many of us would be surprised to note that Allah[God] Almighty states in the Holy Qur'an: 





"Tell the believing men to cast down their looks and guard their private parts; that is purer for them; surely Allah is Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof...."
(translation of 24:30-31)

 
Indeed, before addressing women and telling them to conceal their bodies, Allah first addresses the believing men and tells them to lower their gaze!
The moment a man looks at a woman and if any brazen or unashamed thought comes to his mind, he should lower his gaze.

When discussing the issue of Hijab for men, it is essential to keep in mind the Golden Rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. A man once came to the Prophet Mohammed -peace be upon him- and told him he wished to commit fornication. As some of the companions of the prophet got up to strike him, he -peace be upon him- restrained them and then said to the man, "My son, how would you feel if someone wished to do the same thing with your mother or sister or wife or daughter?" The man replied that naturally he would want to kill the person. The Prophet -peace be upon him- then said, "If you do not wish for someone to do such an act with your mother or sister or wife or daughter, then why entertain such a thought about someone else's mother or sister or wife or daughter?!"

In the context of dressing code, The conditions of a man's Hijab differs from a woman's due to the biological, physiological and physical differences between the genders. Islam dictates that a Muslim man's basic Hijab is the covering of his body from belly-button to below the knee. Though this sounds like a rather sparse and loose definition of modesty, there are pertinent reasons as to this ruling. Men are required to work in Islam, unlike women, who are given the choice to earn their own income or not. Men are required to support their families financially regardless of their level of education or background.

With this ruling, it is inevitable that most of those who find employment as construction workers, farmers... would be men. In some cases, these workers spend most of their time under the hot sun or in extremely dry weather. This provision, the covering of the abdomen to the knee, is the basic requirement that they should observe – this serves as Hijab between themselves.

Ideally women should not be exposed to harsh terrains in search of employment. Should they be in the presence of the opposite gender while working outdoors, Muslim men should remember to observe the basic Hijab requirement in front of marriageable women, and preferably to cover up more.
However, in a social setting or if both men and women work indoors, the definition of Hijab for men becomes wider to endorse and fortify the concept of modesty.

Just like women, men should wear loose, long and non-transparent clothing so as not to attract attention from the opposite gender to their physical appearance. Men are not required to cover their hair, but many Muslim men do, with turbans or keffiyahs.

Popular attire worn by Muslim men around the world include thobes or dishdashs; these are long shirts that sometimes reach down to the ankles. Bishts or abayas are robe-like apparel that cover the whole body. Sirwal or sokoto are baggy trousers usually worn under a thobe.
These are apparel that are influenced by culture and are not ordained by Islam. The religion itself allows both Muslim men and women to wear clothes of their choice provided they comply with the tenets of modesty.

Complete ‘hijaab’ also includes the moral conduct, behaviour, attitude and intention of the individual. A person only fulfilling the criteria of ‘hijaab’ of the clothes is observing ‘hijaab’ in a limited sense. ‘Hijaab’ of the clothes should be accompanied by ‘hijaab’ of the eyes, ‘hijaab’ of the heart, ‘hijaab’ of thought and ‘hijaab’ of intention. It also includes the way a person walks, the way a person talks, the way he behaves, etc.

I hope this was beneficial for you

Wassalaamu alaikum,


Poem about 'hijab'


Dear Muslim Brother,

You tell me sisters hijab these days is incorrect, yet you do not look down at your feet when you speak, you let your trousers drag below your ankles and you still have the cheek to tell me todays hijaabs are haraam because they attract attention and any colour on the outfit is too much but the reminder to men to lower their gaze is a command you forget to mention.

You criticise and try to humiliate my dear sisters in Islam, a way of life so pure & clean
knowing not the effects of your speech drive sisters further from the deen
Because of the hypocrisy of your words, you point fingers at us but you don't notice there are three pointing back at you.My dear brother, you say you only want to tell sisters whats right & wrong, "sister your speach should not be heard", the sunnah of the niqaab you preach yet your clean shaven face tells us the sunnah of the beard you breach.

Lecture after lecture, book after book, poem after poem article after article telling women 'THATS NOT HIJAB' yet many men do not know they're forbidden to wear gold or silk or something completely red, they do not know that the tight fitting t-shirt hugging their abs are also not hijab, something when the word hijab is mentioned would not even run through their head.

Women shouldn't be on TV or radio or the internet and you find a million ways to criticise a woman in the media or out of the house for that matter but when a Muslim sportsman wearing short shorts not covering below his knees is in the spotlight you are quick to praise him and admire what he does just because he is a Muslim...

Tell me again which gender did Allah command with hijab and modesty in the Quran before the other? When someone says 'Brother where is your hijab?' people laugh and think your strange because they do not know the true meaning of hijab are not remided enough that men also have to abide by it's criteria.

My dear brother I understand and appreciate the naseeha you give us womenfolk but if you spent half that time on yourself and expressing the importance of the hijab and modesty of the men of our ummah then you may actually start making a difference to many who follow this deen and even those who have not yet awoke...

I'm sorry but I think it's about time we cleared all these misconceptions and balanced the playing field, hijab is for men just as much as it's for women. Only when we stop being so biased can we portray the beauty & wisdome behind the message that was originally revealed.

"Tell the believing men to cast down their looks and guard their private parts; that is purer for them; surely Allah is Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof...."
(translation of 24:30-31)

Your sister in Islam

1 comment:

  1. Assalaamu Alaikkum ,Sister.
    Sister, Masha Allah, your thoughts are superb! I dont have apt words to describe. I will remind my husband today of his hijab: 1)lower the gaze 2)should not drag the pants. He knows about the 2nd one. He once told that he will see the tailor & get all the pants made short above ankle level. But, he forgot to do that. Thanks for reminding, sister. 3)He already have a small beard.
    Sister, now for the past 2 to 3 days , I make it a point to read your blog.
    Salaam.

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